Listen, you mustn’t try to correct your partner over everything they do.
One of the fastest relationship and marriage killers is trying to point out every little thing your partner is not doing right.
One of the worst evils you can ever do to your partner is to take away their freedom of self-expression. The worst emotional position to push your partner into is that place where he or she starts becoming overly conscious of the things they do or say when you are around, because you are a fault picker.
You may be a perfectionist, and you may like to meet your cup of tea exactly where you left it but don’t take away the power to let your partner be his or herself by correcting everything.
Allow room for mistakes.
Some ladies cannot join a conversation when they’re in the same room with their man. Cause the moment they are alone, he will start pointing out all the things she said wrong, things she shouldn’t have said, and how she embarrassed him in public. Don’t take away the power to be herself anywhere and at any time.
Don’t pick on her shoes all the time. The last thing you want in that relationship or marriage is for her to get to that emotional point where she starts feeling like nothing she does is good for you.
You will destroy her by picking on her mistakes all the time. Give room for errors, it’s all a part of the love experience. Don’t complain about the way she styles her hair, don’t comment on her heavy foundation all the time, and sometimes ignore the witchy eyebrow. Where you want her to be is a place where she feels good about herself, not that horrible place where she doesn’t feel good enough for you.
This goes both ways. You must learn to ignore certain things he does, don’t pick on his mistakes all the time. Talk about it once, then let it slide for a long time before bringing it up again.
Many people don’t know this, but when your partner gets used to your nagging and complaining all the time, they’ll stop working on becoming better.
By Allison Hyacintho
