One of the biggest movements currently gathering storm across the world is the Men Going Their Own Way(MGTOW). It is the natural consequence of capitalism and an increasingly gynocentric world.
Presently, there are so many men, some even unconsciously, so uninterested in women. They have no beef with women. They are not gay. But they have figured out that pursuing a meaningful relationship or even marriage is not necessary, and if anything, it can leave you worse off.
MGTOW is the end of the red pill. Throughout the internet, there are several versions of masculinities being peddled, some toxic, some selfish, some good, some irresponsible, some healthy, some unhealthy. The overall message is to make men understand the nature of women. And there is considerable success.
Associations like the Stingy Men Association and the Valentine’s Day Men Conference may come out as a joke, but through the men’s jokes, memes, and all, men are learning.
I knew men were succeeding when women started calling them crybabies or whiners.
But these phases are more a reaction to a world that has taken men for granted. It is a good phase. No more different from the Feminism of the 20th Century that struggled to make things better for women. Feminism had good intentions and has made the world a slightly different and better one for women. The work is not yet done in full. But one thing that modern masculinity learned from Feminism is selfishness.
See in the past, men sacrificed in wars, and went out there to hunt, provide, and protect. Women sacrificed by staying home to raise children and work around the home.
Industrialization and the modernization of the workforce made it possible for women to join the workforce. Gradually, men lost their primary role. In the West, where these things peaked, most women discovered they don’t exactly need marriage, as they can do good or bad on their own. Is it Gloria Steinem who famously said that “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle”
This type of radical feminism has been peaking up worldwide as more and more working-class women discover that marriage is not necessary and they can have all the fun in the world at their own cost.
But one thing complicates matters. The desire for love and to have children. But as an adult, you may discover love may be a stupid thing. And you can have a kid without the necessary ties of marriage or romantic love. Hence, more and more women prefer to be single mothers as opposed to being married, as they think it chokes them. Or imprisons them. Or adds no value to their lives unless it is a hypergamous situation where, materially, they stand to benefit. Which makes sense.
Men, on the other hand, have come to realize other than providing, their role in marriage is quite frankly ‘useless’. Granted, studies about the effect of absentee fathers show that men are good for the emotional well-being of the children, but nobody takes such stuff seriously as society becomes selfish.
So men now have accepted that their role doesn’t count, so why not become playboys, go their way, go solo, or ditch serious relationships? And in urban towns, women make no-strings sex so available.
But as I said, this is a ‘reaction’ phase.
Beyond here. We must respond. To respond is to go back to the underlying problem. And this is where I find so much hope.
The core of the Red Pill is telling men to go back to the basics.
- Be in charge
- Be masculine
- Work out
- Be self-aware and be accountable
- Make Money
- Have fun
- Go for a feminine woman
And more.
Women raised standards and consistently locked men out of the dating pool as they wanted the best for themselves.
When men raise standards and become high-value men, they are likely to lock many female jokers out of the dating pool.
But life is not a science.
All these are never perfect.
The question remains, will there ever be a time we go back to basics? To be human?
Or shall we live in a world where we see each other as transactions? A necessary benefit and an easily forfeitable distraction.
The dead-end of hyper-feminism and hyper-masculinity is a broken society where we don’t see the inherent value and goodness of each gender.
I am sure machines can never replace the beauty and warmth of female thighs. Toys can never replace the good loving and romancing of a man. Cheap escapism in other pleasures returns us very fast to reality, all feeling empty.
We all act strong in our timeline. But in our inboxes and on the ground, it is all different.
Something to think about.
By Silas Gisiora Nyanchwani
